Social Interaction Epidemic!

We all have been in the situations where you meet people, you think they are cool, and you don’t mind them as humans. But, you don’t connect with them well enough to pursue a friendship. You want to be friendly, but also find yourself in an awkward position to where you can’t tell them
“OH HEY I CAN’T BE FRIENDS WITH YOU BECAUSE I JUST DON’T WANNA.”
Its like its this unforgivable sin to tell someone you’re not interested in being friends because it could hurt their feelings, Its rude, or you bare the torture of them, or another thinking you’re an awful person for “leading them on” by being friendly to them without wanting more than just to be friends in passing.
I have experienced this so many times throughout the last few years.

I am someone who loves talking to others, hearing others out, and being kind to them. But in doing so its as if I’m signing a contract to instantly be their BFF or engage in conversation 24/7. Now don’t get me wrong, I am sure that I have lead others to believe this.
But I KNOW its not every time I talk to someone its on me.

If I’m nice and engaging in conversation with someone, and then, “ignore” or “act like I’m not a real friend” to them later, I come across as mean.
But, if I’m not engaged. I’m a mean anti- social person. Haha… (but for real its a catch 22)

I will try my hardest to simplify my thoughts on this RIDICULOUS epidemic. 🙂

1) We as humans have so many different personalities. Although there are basic types of personalities, there’s still so much variety within and between them. As well as variety on how we react to the actions of the other types of personalities.

(Note: Not all people are going to get along, or mesh on a basic friendship level.
And for whatever reason, it seems that we have lost the realization of this fact.)

It has become a sitcom at this point. How people worry about what they did wrong to make someone stop talking to them, not want to hangout, or not want to be “friends”.

The truth is: WE JUST DON’T WANT TO.

But that’s too harsh to say in this society.
Its okay to not want to hangout with someone, Or to not be friends.
That doesn’t make you a bad person.
What makes you a mean person is how you handle it.
Society has made it such a big deal to tell someone
“Hey, You’re cool and I liked talking to you, I just don’t connect further with you.” That people are afraid to be honest.
There’s always a decent way to go about things. Its just become a bigger deal than it really is.

2) Just because someone does not talk to you for a while, or ask to hang out.

DOES NOT MEAN THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU.
It also

DOES NOT MEAN THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH THE OTHER PERSON INVOLVED.

I don’t even talk to my Best Friends every day. That doesn’t mean I don’t care about them, or love them less. I will always be there for them. Just not every day for casual convo. You eventually run out of things to talk about for a while.

People need space. And they sometimes just want to have it to themselves.
I am someone who, because I put a lot of my energy into others, gets mentally and physically drained. It takes me some time to recharge before I feel up to spending more energy on people.
People take that as selfish sometimes. But ya know what, there’s nothing wrong with taking care of yourself.

You can’t expect me to give you water, when my pipes are frozen.

3) As mentioned previously, We run out of things to talk about, or we don’t have enough in common to engage in further communications outside of social events.

Again, its not anyone fault its just nature. Its easier to let nature take its course.

In Closing:
As we know the last generations have a tendency to take a lot personally. In return this causes such issues as this.
This is something I have noticed to be a common thing that everyone, I think, has in some way experienced at a time.
Its something that is bothersome to me. The fact that people are made to feel bad or awkward for something they shouldn’t. Especially being a more common occurrence.
Not all occurrences are the same, but I thought I’d share my thoughts.

{This is a last minute addition: If someone does not show interest in any form weather it be friendship or more. respect that and accept it. pushing people into something won’t make them like you more or get that better connection I talked about. RESPECT OTHERS BOUNDARIES AND PERSONAL SPACE. And don’t make them feel guilty for having them.}

THANK YOU for reading! 🙂

I would love to here feedback from you! please leave a comment and let me know your thoughts on this topic!       MA

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